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Real Resilience for the New Year

By Sunitha Chandy PsyD


"We misuse the word resilience. We use it as a tool to push past exhaustion, justify our trauma, ignore our injuries and keep plowing on."


The end of the year has snuck up on me yet again and while the temptation is always there to just keep my head down and keep running, I’ve seen the power of a pause.

For many of us, this past year has been a grind and a blur and we’re doing all we can to keep going. We’re touted for being gritty, tough, strong and resilient, but sometimes I worry we’re misusing these words. We misuse the word resilience. We use it as a tool to push past exhaustion, justify our trauma, ignore our injuries and keep plowing on.

For the coming year I want us to experience real resilience. That’s the resilience that comes when we protect the space to bring ourselves back together. To what we care about, the people and the purposes and got us through.

For those of us who can look back and see wins from this past year - take a moment, raise a glass and celebrate. Name those wins, call them out and hold them close. Remind yourself why you work so hard and why you invest so much.

But for those of us who also look over this past year - were it feels hard, and heavy. Where there has been loss. Take a pause and see those who are around you. Remember the ways that they’ve shown up, and the ways you’ve shown up for them.

Resilience shows up when we see the cracks and we take steps to patch them. When we recognize that the winter is coming and we pull out our sweaters. Whether it’s celebration or sorrow - we can all acknowledge the ways we showed up this year and the people that showed up with us.

Wishing you all more steps closer to the values and people you long to be in the new year.



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